I need some advice. I had been secretly in love with someone, B., for the past 2 years. He and I are good friends, but he likes someone else, Kara, who is also my friend.
So since it didn't seem possible for me to express my feelings for him, I helped him court Kara. Then Kara decided that she wasn't ready to commit, and broke up with him.
He was so devastated that I didn't know what to do. He wanted me to help them come back together, so during our Christmas party, I got them to dance together. But somehow, I felt so sad I had to stop dancing and go somewhere to cry.
Then when he came back and told me that Kara had rejected him again, I just didn't know if I should feel glad or sad, or anything at all.
When I was about to leave the dance, he offered to send me off. We ended up discussing he and Kara. When he told me that he is willing to wait until Kara accepts him, I felt my heart die.
I was so sad that i just wanted to end my feelings for him. So I asked him to close his eyes, kissed
him and said goodbye.
Since I didn't think we'd meet again, I thought everything would end there. But I cannot get my mind off him.
Then I met Kara yesterday at a party. We left together and talked about their relationship. She told me that she's hesitant about the outcome and thus is not confident enough to make up with B.
So I ended up encouraging her to accept B. Then I felt so rotten about myself that I went home to cry again.
I'm hopeless and I don't think I can take it anymore. I don't think I can continue being their go-between aunt-agony anymore, but I can't tell Kara that I love her boyfriend.
What should I do?

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It is often said, that when women describe their problems they are looking for a sympathetic ear.

When men hear these problems, they do not provide that support, instead they provide a solution which is not what is wanted or required.

The woman in question will usually know and understand what she needs to do, she is simply looking for understanding and support with her decisions.

I'd say then that your best bet is to turn to the people mist likely to give you that understanding and support with your problem. Unfortunately that's not something you're likely to find on an internet dating site.

Good luck.

Girl, stop being martyr!!! you have to stop doing things that will hurt you. Before you love other people love yourself first

You know the best thing you should do is that keep distance with your friend. Let him miss you.Let him know that he will feel empty without your presence. In that way he will began to see your beauty, your worth and some qualities you have that kara dont have it.

OK?