Hi, First time poster moderate time reader

I'm a 21 year old guy in Glasgow, been single for about 3 years. (ever since i moved here)

I would say I'm not like what most guys seem to act in that i really am a relationship kinda guy. don't think i have the confidence or the desire to have a one night stand with someone i just met.
the problem is that its very very difficult to find someone in this city.

I go out dancing with my friends a lot but never seem to get any response from the women out. i don't perve or stalk the dance floor as i see some people. I have absolutely no confidence to go up and start a conversation but would be thrilled if someone came to talk to me or started dancing.

I honestly have never talked to a girl in a club that i didn't go with so again confidence is probably an issue. but its not the confidence to talk its the confidence to initiate if you get me?

I dunno, any advice or suggestions would be great. (although i have heard most of them already)

Awrite there mate.

A;; I have to say is "you shouldn't worry!" You are not alone in this lol. I am the same. I was with my ex for almost 3 years and have been single for a month but before that, I couldn't talk to any girls I liked and now, its still the same.

I am looking for a relationship too, someone to give my heart to lol but times seem to be changing and alot of the woman that talk to me only want one thing, and I always feel guilty and cant go through with it. I'd like to get to know them before I think of anything more lol. Sounds like I'm a loser but I dont care, its who I am, but dont worry man. Shes out there!

As a relationship type of person, you're willing to give 100% of you to a woman that you really enjoy the company of. This is not to be shat on..Not having the affection or love for another person isn't a choice, its a gene. You, fortunately, have the gene that allows you to care and love for someone with all your energy.

Because of that, it wont be hard for you to find a woman that you can share it with. But, dispite popular belief a club is NOT the place for guys like you to find your partner. As mentioned on another topic, there's only two types of females. The ones that go out to pull a lad, and the ones that go out to enjoy their night WITHOUT lads. The ones you want, are the ones that wont talk to you because they're not looking for a lad.

My best advice for you mate is not to go looking for a chick in a club, because chances are she was in there last week and left with another guy, and the week before that. You dont need to waste your energy on a chick that opens her legs over a pint. You should try day to day things..Coffee shop, for instance. If you see a girl you like.. Just say hello to her, the worst that can happen is she'll deny you. But chances of you seeing her again are very slim..So what do you have to lose?

Good luck though bro, you deserve it.