You aren't exactly perfect, mate.[/quote]

I never said I was,, anybody who has to go on the net to look for a date has some problems, either with appearance or personality

Its just a way of you not facing the truth, the truth is hard to accept.

Its like somone who smokes saying, oh I enjoy it, Ive got every right to smoke, its the only pleasure Ive got in life etc.. but all those who used to smoke will tell you.. god I was so stupid sucking on that poisonious stick for years on end, I smelt of smoke, my clothes and home smelt of smoke and I was unhealthy..

You ask anybody who was fat and successfully regained a healthy weight and they would tell you.. I was so lazy, I had no self worth, I made excuses for myself not to diet and kept eating convenience food, I pretended to family and friends that I was happy with my appearance ect ect, but I am so glad that I finally found the discipline to do something about it and I feel 1000 better now.
Yes you are human being and deserve respect.. but if you can't respect yourself then you can't expect other people to respect you.

And the first step is to face the cold hard truth and admit that you have got a problem and you want to make a change for the better.

[quote="londonguy38"]

I do respect myself I respect the massive journey I have made to get where I am today, despite the inordinate number of obstacles that have been placed in my path. In addition I respect people unconditionally in the initial stages ...until they demonstrate a bigotry (sic) that makes them no longer worthy of my respect.

Its simple I choose not to judge people initially - I wait for them to shine or not before I make any judgements....... and size or lack of it incidentally because very slim people might just be judged badly too doesnt come into the equation

put the fu**er to the rogue

Mm had a quick skim through this topic,and it pretty much covers what most guys think but normally Im sorry to say women dont believe us.
Guys do tend to prefer women who dont diet themselves to a stick.We like women to be women.Women who arent afraid to have some cake and indulge in chips with lots of mayo on top.
The normal image of stick thin women is marketed by fashion magazines,normally edited and marketed by women and gay men.And neither, judging by the craze for size 0, appears to have any idea what most men desire.
Of course being big doesnt mean its a sit on your arse and eat what you like card.Indulging your desires comes at a price.The price is respecting your body by putting in the work to counter to many pies.Becasue big is beautiful but plain flabby is just un attractive.
Men and women are guilty of letting themselves go in this department.Men with over hanging beer guts,women who arent teenagers trying to fit into crop tops and hipster jeans.The image is one not easily forgotten,and surely a timely reminder for all concerned to respect and improve the body their lucky enough to own.

hey ya
just to say i couldnt care less what any bloke thought of me n my size. i love me, i love being me and if some bloke who i prbably wouldnt look twice at anyway thinks i offend his eyes then sweetheart DONT LOOK lol

im not a hater just cant be bothered wasting my time with blokes who care more about how many people he could fit into my jeans rather than my fantastic personality.

now i got that off my chest have a great evenin lol

I am damn sexy. Ain't no 2 ways about it. My shape remains curvy on a weight spike or a low. I am grateful for my genetics. I think the confidence you exude makes all the difference in the world.

*my 2 cents*

Well said Persephoni

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yeah agreed cellery sticks dont cut it, but that dont mean you have to completely go extreme with it, lol.

wow how refreshing! i must say im a bigger lady and would like 2 loose a few pounds but i wouldnt go as far as 2 be a vic beckham look alike! many women believe if ur not the stick thin model type men wont find u attractive! im here 2 tell you that is sooo not the case as i say im a bigger girl and ive never had trouble attracting the fellas, nen are starting 2 realise real women have curves [size=18][/size][b][/b]

Having read the rest of the thread now, i think our friend here is the only one to have anything negative to say. I think the worst thing that could happen now is that people pay him anymore attention, in this thread anyway.

My own take on it is that i'd agree with some of the people who have said that extremes aren't good, health wise extremes are not the most practical way to live your life and people too big and too small should be encouraged to prioritise their own well being if only to ensure you have a better quality of life.

I think most reasonable people with any ability to read between the lines will know that the 'perfect size' that is portrayed in the media etc. if far from normal and serves no purpose in the normal scheme of things (taking demographics etc. into account). Some where in the middle, a happy medium if you will is the best representation of society and human nature.



Now can we get this thread back on track quick smart ..... appreciation for the fuller figured women among us and how good they look

Oopps .... i seemed to have knocked this thread on the head. And i actually like fuller figure women, i should have kept my mouth shut i suppose