I see men asking this question all the time lol.

I am a single man and will try answer it to the best of my ability !.

Two words BE YOURSELF, dont use any cheezy pic up lines. Humour is key, woman dont like to be complimented about their phyhsical appearance. Rather compliment them how intelligent they sound, or talk to them about what there profiles contains.

Be unique be yourself! dont try be something you not.

Dont write an essay! keep it short and to the point.

Please ladies be kind enough to add your own tips to this topic and men too

Hope to speak to you all soon

Be fitt!!

Sorry i couldnt resist!! But to be fair my outbox sits at 80 (it was alot higher but their profile got banned) and my inbox sits a damn site higher than that in fact i did have i think 80 odd pages of messages so as you can see i dont bother to reply, i see no point, im not looking for anything so there is no point in replying!!!

I will say crack a joke... a funny one not a pathetic accuse of a joke that makes you think WTF... ok! Also a little bit of cheeky criticism about something that they like can work..... but to be fair your message can only get you so far, in my case if its raised an eyebrow i may just look at their profile (8/10 i dont) then it goes from there, a good about me plus a good pic and not just one, several picture does the rest!

But i think someone that actually replies to messages but be of more help!

Im Glad you couldnt resist Miss Jb and very valid point! Good to know your views Please feel free to contribute anytime you like. So now anyone else want to add anything

One more thing,if you use the chat feature, follow all my tips in my above post and try to get a email address or some other contact information. BUT DO NOT start a conversation, hows your email addy! Approach with caution, get to know your new potential friend, be polite, and if you are getting on well enough she will give you outside contact details without you even having to ask otherwise politely ask her for outside contact details and she will give you them, if you have a snowballs chance DONT PESTER AND ACT DESPERATE its a major turn off for women!!

hey i am new to this but had to put my view on it


i would say if a man is nice and send you message then i would reply
but there needs to be a topic and iether a question or intrest on what i like to do then i will reply with an answer and also ask my own you keep at the ask and answer game then you get to know each other quite qickly but be careful about what you ask. i find if a man asks me about what i am passionate about then i am so happy to tell then. and don't every do cheesy lines examply: hey hot stuff what ma addy and we can go on can or hey sexy want some fun. they two are like a major no go zone.

i would also say a complament about the way ae are is nice but make it personal some thing that can only relate to her and not every girl.

well that i would say it some good points but it is only my turn offs

Oh yes, I've just been thinking about what a guy's user name is may grab my attention before a pic.It doesn't mean it has to be good, but certain names will attract me to look further because they're spiritual and may indicate to me somebody with a similar philosophical understanding, or I sometimes like to see what kind of person would call themselves THAT...you know the kind... 69 ten inch armpit licker... etc. (although I won't find them impressive, just amusing!)

The about me needs to have something interesting or different in the first few words because if I'm looking at who's on line, there will be loads of pics and most I wouldn't look any further unless the opening words grip me as well as the pic.

I think personal compliments can be nice, but if it's OTT then that turns me off. I also like a guy to ask questions that are not the 'run of the mill' obvious ones to ask. Plus, something that shows he's bothered to read my profile, although at the moment I've got a limited content profile as I'm not looking.

I don't like being messaged without my message to the person being cleared, I'm forever thinking I've got my own message back, and then I'll find a few words at the bottom that have been added. I think it indicates a bit of 'can't be bothered' attitude.
I don't like the RE RE RE RE RE it's always ME that has to put a title or delete/mark make changes in that box for easier retrieval of earlier conversations. Some people will know that I number them when I'm expecting to be exchanging quite a few messages with the person.
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The last message i sent, simply said..

"Wtf were you doing in that picture.?!"

we've been talking for 2 days now.
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My profile clearly states I'm here only for the forums and I'm not in the UK anyway, fact forumers know already...

However I wanted to add my 2p to this topic...

I for one don't open the message until I've had a look at the pictures and information. If there are no pictures, I'll open the message to find out if they're also stupid (in addition to not having a picture). I'll pretty much open all messages, unless your profile is so MOOO that I can't bring myself to read whatever you had to oink. LOL (sorry, I'm just kidding... NOT)

If you manage to send an outstanding message and I'm not answering it, it pretty much means that your pictures or something on your profile made my little inner voice say "I'm afraid you just didn't make the cuts. Nice message though."

Bottom line is... If you're a regular dude with a good message, you always have a shot.

And truth is... Even if you're the hottest stud around... If you only let your body do the talking and your message says "hi!" and that's it... Well... I really think most women with something in their heads won't go for the looks alone.

However the looks do help... As in, just like in the case of the BIG BANANA, a good looking guy doesn't need an AMAZING message... A good one is enough...

Anyway... I've ranted enough, not that anyone cares Bottom line is... Online dating is sort of hard... The variety is huge and everyone's got a lot to pick from... I'd say it's harder than real life, as weird as that may seem. But that shouldn't shy one away from sending messages to anyone... If you don't send here, then where? LOL And regardless of your brains or looks, you may just click with some people you never thought you'd click with (it's rare, I agree lol).

Gnite and... Well... Good luck !

i do realize that many women have an overload of unwanted mail in their inbox.

but as long as you see someone is genuine, please be at least polite enough to show some appreciation for the time this person has actually wasted on you.

These are my personal thoughts...

For your profile:
- A bit of humour and wit is great.
- Your job and hobbies are a big part of your life, but little quirks say more about you and are more interesting, eg. championing Talk Like a Pirate Day or something equally random

Messages:
- I don't like being called pet names (babe etc.) by someone I don't even know.
- The first message you send to someone could be the one chance you have to make an impression - it may sound pedantic, but when I get a poorly-spelt message it makes me think that either the guy is stupid or he doesn't think I'm worth the effort.
- Be respectful! Sorry to the guys looking for casual love, but the vast majority of girls would be disgusted by a filthy message in their inbox. If you don't know whether a girl will be 'up for it', be very polite when wording your message.

if she wears something that looks more expensive than herself,how can I be nice?
there are 2 domains on this website:
1-Flirt-box
2-Bitch-box
sometimes, you can buy 2 for the price of one,on the second domain.and all you pay is No Respect. then you get her.
" Chose Bitch-box! because all the freebies are expensively wrapped !!!!!"


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im done, im just fucking done. LOL. I quit, srsly, i quit.

A guide how to get a woman to reply? nice one stud.

in some peoples cases, the best way to get a woman to reply is to take their pictures down and just pure out insult the chick. *cough*

Seriously, every woman is different so to write a guide on how to get a reply is just...i quit LOLOL.