Hi, recently re-registered to this awesome site but I am having the same problem as before. Sent out several messages to people but not getting any replies. What happens when they read my messages is they then view my profile (I can track this activity on the visitors page) but then they don't write back to me.

Would love to know why they don't write back, but I can't really ask them because... they don't write back. I always take the time to read everything on the profile of the person I am writing to, and write something personalised to them. I'm always very nice in my messages. I take things slow and don't ask anything of them in my first message. I think my profile picture is ok, maybe I'm not everyone's type but I'm not hideous. The people I write to are within my age group and usually quite close by location.

Seems pretty harsh when I take the time to write to somebody, they don't think it's worth acknowledging my existence even just to say thankyou but not interested. I would really appreciate it if they did. Sometimes I get really excited about somebody when I find that they have similar interests, but they always ignore me when I say hi. And really the point of a site like this is to connect...

Having been on this site before and a few others, and the same thing keeps happening... I think it's a really big problem. why do girls think it is an ok thing to do. they could at least write something brief to be polite, and so I don't lose hope that people don't hate me. I understand that some girls might be swamped with messages and only have time to reply to the people who most interest them, but that can't be true for everyone and I am ignored by 99% of girls.

So I'd like to know, girls, what goes through your head when someone is interested in you. Why doesn't it nag on your conscience when you ignore them entirely. And guys who have the same problem, have you been able to conquer it? should I be more persistent and send multiple messages to the same person to show I am serious? I don't know

This topic comes up time and time again.

I am of the same mind. If I write to someone, I expect some sort of response, even out of common curtesy. I don't particularly care if the reply is just "marry OFF!", at least I know that I've not just wasted my time because my message hasn't even been looked at. It also lets you know exactly where you stand.

Unfortunately, this tends to go over people's heads and no matter how many times people complain about not getting responses, they continue to remain ignorant on most dating sites.

They say ignorance is bliss so there must be a lot of blissful women about.

arr, it's depressing. well thanks for your reply. yay communication.

Guys and girls..I am really sorry but this is the painfull truth:Ppl are too busy and don't give a marry about being polite anymore,they just think of time time time..If you don't have a picture or pure and simple they don't like something in your profile,why spend their time to tell you marry off..when they can just keep browsing.

Tip:Don t get upset with it anymore and just take it as ..they don t fancy you.If you check your outbox and the message that you sent has been opened but no reply,is a clear indication that they don t like you or they are looking for something different.

Hope it helps...

If you're getting no replies, think about what it is you're writing, and why you're not getting any replies. At the minute I get responses to about one in every two women that I message, and about one in every two of them I have extended conversations with. I'm sure that I don't say anything special.
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I got in touch with my feminine side. She emailed me back saying if I ever contacted her again she'd call the police.

First of all, you need to get a pic for it. An authentic pic speaks more than things that are said on your profile. Secondly, you need to check what you're writing especially to women, you'll fail if you copy-paste the same manuscript with a different address each time. These one-liner messages must be interesting as lengthy messages are often boring. You just cannot just even say 'hello, how are you?' because its of no use. When I'm online, its obvious that i'm not suffering from glaucoma or have broken my arm which is an obvious sign of well being. No lady answers these lone 'hi' & 'hello'-s. You must say something interesting, really. A remark about the profile often seems to have interested many & it also shows your true interest which has made you read the whole profile.

Hi mate,

I had a quick look at your profile.

My two penn'orth.

(1) You're a good looking guy, so although not every woman will fancy you, a proportion of them will. So it's not that, IMHO.

(2) Your profile message comes across as a bit desperate. You say something like "I'm lonely and willing to accept whatever I can get." I'm no expert on female psychology (if I was, then why would I be here?!), but I would imagine that a lot of women would find that sentence very unsexy. In my experience, women like confidence, and your profile intro sends exactly the opposite message. If you're saying similar things in your messages, then that would only compound the problem.

In short, rethink your approach a little bit.

Good luck!

girls dont like to reply without pics and i find that alot of men r here for love n women tend to be here for chat i could be wrong but it seems to me that you need to be yourself and talk about day to day stuff and upload a pic of urself

You might like to consider that your messages aren't getting through to them, I don't mean reaching their heart, I mean there's literally a problem with the messaging system.

I'm having a similar problem, I'd suggest trying to write on their guestbook. There's a girl I was getting on with who now doesn't reply to my messages, maybe she is ignoring me but I don't think so.

I set up a second account, and I can send messages between the 2 accounts and write on the guestbooks. Even if I block myself, you get a " " message when trying to send a message to someone who's blocking you, but you are still able to write on their guestbook, no matter what.
The girl I was talking about earlier, I can't write anything on her guestbook, which doesn't make any sense, unless there's a problem with the system,....

I've seen people talking about a similar issue, don't be so hard on yourself.

Or you could just not worry about it. Just send out a half decent email, be yourself and off you pop.
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Healthy, who cares?..... Pork away!

It could also be partly a matter of statistics.

Once you've sifted through the fake, scam, lapsed, and dormant profiles, there might not be that many active users left!

This kind of leads on to another factor of how free sites dispense with the fundamental filtering mechanism that paid dating sites have.

I've set up a poll on this here:-

http://www.flirtbox.net/dating/online-dating-sites-free-vs-paid-what-do-you-prefer-.html

It's also worth remembering there's more to Flirtbox than dating.

pretty much the story of my life, people not responding to me, although I some times find it more annoying when someone does reply and the reply is pointless like 1 word...

Try some charm and above all just be yourself.

No-one likes a liar either so be honest and you will find the replies coming in soon enough.

What gets me is the profiles that actively encourage you to message them, that they will chat to anyone interested- nope, no reply from there either
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