Right, Hello.

Just some advice, to all men, and mainly the ones who are msging me.. right putting urself down isnt attractive

How do u expect other people to find you attractive when you dont.. i know sometimes it hard, and belive you me, us women wake up and feel and eurgh.. but if we walked around shouting it yeah people would start thinking it.

Beauty is on the inside, im a big beliver in that, you cant judge a book by its cover, so stop moaning about ur love handles, and wonky teeth, and show some personality, after all thats what matters

You could be the most attractive guy, but theres nothing less attractive than moaning on about things, same as you could be soo gorgeous, yet have the personality of a piece of wood.. great.. *not*

In 50 years.. ur teeth might be gone, and u might be just as fat.. but ur persoanlity with shine through and thats what matters.

I completely agree.
Recently i've been talking to a boy from here - and his third sentance was "i didn't think you'd reply because i'm so ugly".....WHAT. Don't do this!!!

Guys, women don't want to hear your insecurities. And i'm sure i speak for most when i say putting yourself down isn't how you'll gain compliments.

All modesty is false; remember this.

Pleeeeze don't say you are just out a bad break up with the love of your life and you don't trust women anymore.

That is too much work for most girls to handle.

So using these tips I have constructed the perfect description of myself:

I'm just out a bad break up with the love of my life and I don't trust men anymore.
My love handles are beautiful and provide essential support during love. I have straight teeth and a dynamic personality.
My friends describe me as a pillar of strength.
I am the perfect man.

I do agree beauty is on the inside but from my experience, not putting myself down or anything, everywhere i go and i try many places everyone judges me looks first. People generally will not bother getting to know inless they are attracted to you in the first place.

Night clubs/pubs generally places where most people go, you can barely hear the other person talk, people in places like that will judge looks first.
so for ppl like me, there is no point in goin clubbing etc to meet any1 if it be for a date, to get lucky etc cuz its neva gonna happen.

i been bullied my entire life 4 being ugly, ive been anorexic for over 10yrs, 99% of girls do not wanna date someone skinnier than them and theres nothing i can do bout my weight. Then im only 5'4 and so already most women are taller than me and do not consider guys smaller them, then theres girls who are same height or smaller, even wearing high heels make them taller and wont consider guys who are actually taller than them but cuz of the heels, there not on a night out.

I have neva once been judged by my personality cuz not one girl has eva even bothered to get to know me, i can go upto girls and im my usual reply is f off minger. I can show im completely happy etc, yet im still told to go away. Tried all types of girls, all types of places and always the same answers so i find it hard to believe anyone realy truly does go for whats on the inside cuz if they did sum1 wud have at least got 2 know me once in the 26yrs ive lived. 12yrs old have more relationship experience than me.

Good call lela....obviously a large....lack of confidence is men. Looking at your picture your beauty is sooooo abundant it excites me (lol)!

what about trying to decode a little ironic message?
there are people that know whe they are and are maybe just like messaging but no more,not even looking for replies...... what about people that look at your profiles, photos, and see your "mature "attitude......?like the lady that posted this thread?
why not telling these things to these people,instead of, here?
for me is a bit of kiss and tell + need of attention +getting a good rate

Hello, thanks to all who messaged.. and thanks for the critasism.. its all welcomed.. as a woman i dont feel overally attractive.. lol i dont think im ugly.. but i also dont think the sun shines out of my ........, and to be honest, what guy would want a girl who thinks shes 'it'.. i would say the most beautifull part of me.. would be the other 'half' of me that im yet to find .. as this person would make me so happy.. forget the make up, and hair dye.. whats more beautifull than being in love, and being happy?..

As for confidence.. oh my gosh.. i have days where i feel so terrible i dont even want to walk down the street on my own.. but on these days..
These are the days you fake!! it!!.. confidence shines from within.. if you act it.. you'll look it.. job interviews, first dates,... all an act at first i recon..

But don't you think it's important to forewarn any interested parties that I have a teeny weeny?

Seriously though, pitching yourself is like pitching a film script to a producer. You don't hand them your script and say 'This is an action adventure but it doesn't have much action or adventure and is quite week in the middle. Please read it.' You don't even say 'This is the best action adventure you will ever read.' You just hand the script over and let the producer decide for themselves.

Let the script speak for itself.

Similarly, if you have a picture or two on your profile page, you don't need to describe what you look like at all. Let the girl decide for herself by looking at your picture. A picture speaks a thousand words. Save the words for showing her your personality and charming her with witty observations about Star Trek and comic books. After all, isn't that what we all want? Joey X